Everyone knows someone who has a dead beat parent in their life. Usually it is the father, but it can be the mom. I am not being blind to the truth of these statistics. I have just had it up to my mandible with dead beat fathers personally.
Let me illustrate my point with some examples pulled at random from the ether of my existence.
If you aren't taking care of your already begotten children, then don't get the woman that you left the original family for pregnant. I am truly beyond belief upset over a man who left his two biological children and one adopted child completely. And spent years trying to figure out how to screw their mom out of child support while not emotionally supporting them either (contain your shock). And has now knocked up the adulterous hooker he has since married. (Did I mention she was married also when they began their illicit affair). I just want to give some people the back of my hand. I have seen this scenario play out so many times. Daddy leaves family number one, then meets (or already had) woman number 2. If she has kids, he bonds with them and kicks his originals to the curb or they breed a new brood, either way, voila!
Or here is another shining example of daddy done wrong. If you leave your family and do all in your power to not let them know where you are or send them child support, or call them on birthdays or holidays, or won't come see them because you may be arrested upon re-entering the state where your children reside then you are a bad father. Just so we are clear on that one. You are actually just a bad person in my personal, oh so humble opinion.
But, here is the thing. If you know me you know I don't care what you do. If you want to run away and join the circus then do it. But, that is it. You send your child support payments home FOR YOUR KIDS, and you call them, often, to let them know that this is something you had to do for yourself and you love them and it is no fault of theirs. You don't get to start family number 2 just because the new wore off family number 1. And you sure as hell don't get to critique the mothering skills of the woman who is raising your brood to the best of her financial abilities while trying to heal the backlash of the mental anguish you caused your kids by saying, sorry, you're not what I wanted.
If you can't stand to be with your baby mama anymore then be a man and leave her while maintaining the appropriate level of financial and emotional maturity to maintain your relationship with those kids. In other words, don't make me break my foot off in your ass.
I may be crazy, but at least I'm having fun. I'm a lot of things, but least of all is normal. I'm a nurse, teacher, student, drinking, swearing, mother, friend and all around snarky bitch at times.
